Stop Reinventing Your Life Every Monday
How many times have you made the same decision this month? Not the big decisions. The little ones.
What should we have for dinner? What do I need at the grocery store? When should I do laundry? What should I tackle first when I have a few minutes?
Think about how many times you’ve answered those questions before. And yet, somehow, tomorrow you’ll probably find yourself answering at least a few of them again.
I’ve been thinking about how much time and energy we spend figuring out things we’ve already figured out.
We make a decision. It works. We use it for a while. Then Monday comes around, and instead of simply continuing with what works, we start planning everything all over again.
But what if some decisions could just stay made? Not forever. Not because we’re creating rigid rules for our lives. Just because we already found an answer that works, and there’s no reason to keep searching for a new one.
The Decisions You Don’t Realize You’re Making
We make hundreds of little decisions throughout the day, and most of them don’t seem particularly important. But some of them come up again and again.
Think about grocery shopping. You probably buy many of the same things every week. Milk, eggs, bread, fruit, whatever your household regularly uses.
And yet, how often do you sit down to make a grocery list and start trying to remember everything you need? You’re essentially rebuilding a list you’ve already created dozens of times.
Now imagine having a basic list of the things you regularly buy. You’d still add anything special you needed that week, and you wouldn’t necessarily buy every item every time. But you wouldn’t have to start from nothing.
That’s the kind of thing I’m talking about.
Sometimes the easiest way to make life simpler is to stop treating every familiar situation like a brand-new problem.
Stop Starting From a Blank Page
There’s a reason templates, checklists, and saved lists are so useful. They let us reuse work we’ve already done. We understand this in other parts of life.
Businesses use standard procedures so employees don’t have to figure out how to do the same task every time. Restaurants have regular menus instead of inventing an entirely new collection of dishes every morning. And most of us have favorite recipes we make without needing to research a new one every time we’re hungry.
But in our personal lives, we often start from scratch unnecessarily.
We search for new dinner ideas when we already have meals everyone enjoys. We create a new cleaning plan when we could simply keep a short list of what needs attention regularly. We spend time figuring out what to pack for a trip even though we brought nearly the same things last time. Or we make a new to-do list and try to remember all the recurring little tasks that belong on it.
None of these decisions is particularly difficult on its own. But why keep doing the same mental work if you don’t have to? A reusable list, a saved plan, or even a note on your phone can give you a starting point.
You can still change anything you want. You just don’t have to reinvent the whole thing.
Give Yourself a Default Answer
One of my favorite ways to simplify a decision is to give it a default answer.
A default isn’t a rule you have to follow. It’s simply what you’ll do unless there’s a good reason to do something different. For example, you might decide that Friday night is usually pizza night. That doesn’t mean you’re required to eat pizza every Friday for the rest of your life! It just means that when Friday comes around, you already have an answer to the dinner question.
If everyone wants something different, great. Change it. But if nobody has a better idea, you don’t need to spend twenty minutes discussing what to eat. You already have a perfectly good option.
This works well when I’m figuring out my daughter’s lunch. Depending on the day, she might have leftovers from the night before or something else she enjoys. But we have a short list of favorites we can always fall back on, which makes choosing lunch much easier.
Defaults can work for all kinds of everyday decisions. You might have a few favorite outfits you wear when you don’t feel like thinking about clothes. A standard gift you give for certain occasions. A short list of easy lunches you usually keep ingredients for. A regular order from a restaurant you visit often. Or a go-to activity when you unexpectedly have a free afternoon.
These aren’t major life changes. They’re simply ways to give yourself fewer unnecessary decisions.
And the best part is that a default gives you an answer without taking away your choices.
You Don’t Have to Keep Improving Something That Already Works
Here’s another way we sometimes make life harder than it needs to be. We find something that works, and then we start wondering whether there’s a better way. Could I make this routine more efficient? Is there a better app for this? Should I reorganize everything? Would a different system work even better?
Sometimes the answer is yes, and making a change is worthwhile. But sometimes we’re spending more time trying to improve something than the improvement could possibly save us.
Think about a system you already use to keep track of appointments or things you need to remember. If it’s working perfectly well, do you really need to research five different apps to find something better? Or could you just keep using what you have?
I think there’s a difference between improving something because it’s causing problems and improving it simply because we think we should always be optimizing. Not everything needs to be a project. Not every routine needs an upgrade. And not every system needs to be replaced with something newer or more impressive.
Sometimes the smartest thing you can do is leave something alone because it’s already working.
Save the Answer Somewhere You’ll Actually Find It
Of course, there’s one small catch to all this. If you make a decision but can’t remember it or find it when you need it, you may end up making it all over again anyway.
That’s why it helps to keep your reusable answers somewhere convenient. Not necessarily in a fancy planner or complicated app. It could be a note on your phone, a piece of paper on the refrigerator, or a checklist you keep in your bag.
The important thing is that it’s easy to find when you need it.
Take packing for a trip, for example. Instead of trying to remember everything you need each time, you can keep a list, pull it out before your next trip, and make whatever adjustments are necessary.
In fact, I still use a packing list I created over 20 years ago! I’ve updated it as things have changed, but most of the essentials are still the same. Why would I start from scratch every time I travel when I’ve already figured out what I need?
That’s a pretty nice return on a few minutes of effort.
Leave Room to Change Your Mind
I don’t want this to sound as though you should make a decision once and never reconsider it.
Life changes. Your needs change. Something that worked beautifully six months ago might not work nearly as well today. And sometimes you simply want to try something new.
That’s fine! The point isn’t to make your life predictable or remove every decision. It’s to recognize the difference between a decision that genuinely needs your attention and one that already has a perfectly good answer.
If your default dinner doesn’t sound appealing, make something else. If your packing list needs updating, update it. If your regular routine stops working, rethink it. But you don’t need to reconsider everything just because another week has started.
Keep the decisions that are working. Revisit the ones that aren’t. That’s a much easier way to approach things than constantly starting over.
One Less Decision This Week
Here’s something I’d love for you to try. Pay attention to the little questions you find yourself answering repeatedly. Not the important decisions that deserve careful thought. The ordinary ones that seem to come up every few days.
When you notice one, ask yourself: Have I already figured out a good answer to this? If you have, see whether you can turn that answer into a default. Or save it somewhere so you can reuse it next time.
It doesn’t need to be complicated. You could create a basic grocery list that you can copy every week. Save a packing checklist instead of trying to remember everything before each trip. Decide what you’ll usually make for lunch on busy days. Or simply recognize that something you’ve been thinking about changing is already working perfectly well.
Choose just one. Then, the next time that decision comes around, enjoy not having to figure it out again. Because making life easier isn’t always about discovering something new. Sometimes it’s about remembering what you’ve already figured out.
And letting that be enough.
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